Earlier today, Amy told me to go for a walk, to go to the beach as she wanted to enjoy time together and show me something associated with the topic of blame.
For those that aren’t aware, Amy is my beloved partner in crime, my spirit guide, the twin flame, devoted and it took a lot of work about learning what love isn’t to embrace the divine love that she is.
So whilst sitting at the Cafe having lunch today, I could not stop but overhear a conversation. The person was talking about a scenario in which she responded using a punishment based approach. Which, I found rather amusing as the more she spoke about her reaction to something so small, the more proud of her achievements she became.
I knew whilst listening to the conversation that Amy wanted me to see this as it’s a scenario that everyone faces on a daily basis. The difference and clashes in personality and how each person reacts to such circumstances.
On the way back from the beach, we got talking about blame, how people blame each other or another for certain things happening or not happening in their lives. Yet, if we look at our life charts, perhaps that scenario X was meant to happen or not happen. Perhaps it is to demonstrate to us that we have no control over anything external apart from our actions and reactions which originate from the internal.
To give an example, I’ve been working on shifting into the mindset of the belief that each and every single situation is an experience and whatever situation arises, to observe and not get attached to the outcome. It is taking time and am finding more peace and happiness in this belief. It is also that no person is to blame for what experience arises as it is always over lighted by divine will in order to learn and evolve. An argument with a family member or a loved one could be very well to shift our boundaries or acceptance and is ultimately an experience and nothing more. This is what I’m learning at the moment and fine tuning this understanding.
Going back to the discussion on blame tho… What Amy was showing me this afternoon was how people blame each other for certain things. For myself and for years on end, I was blaming others for my short comings. Often it led me to experiencing much more pain and suffering, so as one can see… Blame is truly unhealthy.
There is another scenario where there was heavy blame for the drug therapy regime that I endured and seeing mountains of destruction. Yet, whilst I don’t blame them, the feeling of anger was still there. The medication regime happened for a reason, it was there to create many experiences in order to learn to overcome and/or manage them. It led me to look at understanding my own mind. If led me to brain wave therapy and today I’m creating brain wave therapy music.
What would happen if that there was no one to blame at all but just the process of having the individual experience and learning the art of non-attachment and experience the actions, reactions and emotions of the moment rather than lashing out and blaming another.
The more that this work can be done by each individual person, the more peace everyone will have, the more love there will be to experience and the happier everyone will be.
The system of emotions mixed with the system of actions/reactions is a rather fascinating one when one begins to explore it and learn to use it.
In a recent reading with Amy through Joy, I discussed this situation as how I found my limited or lack of emotional response to a refusal had actually intrigued me. I was more interested in getting a nice cup of coffee than getting caught up in the emotions of the situation. This is what Amy had to say…
You are not being as emotionally affected because when things are completely of the mundane world you are sensing how easy it is to get outside of them. There is no need to get turned upside down about any problem in the mundane world because with a little guidance anything and everything has a solution. It may not be the solution you want to hear but it is one that is meant to be. There is a certain grace and wisdom that, if we let ourselves get out of the way of, we can fully experience in our lives. I speak in the incarnate because I live it with you, and because to some extent it is like that on the level of disincarnate too. Things happen for reasons here too after all.
Thus, we need to implement a way of thinking that allows things to happen as it is meant to happen. There is no need for anger, emotional responses or reactions. Forgiveness, acceptance, patience and love is all we need to embrace.
In my own experience referenced above, I saw it as a guiding path to take me to another direction and deliver my workshops online rather than focusing on the local community. The online methodologies are much needed now to reach out to a greater audience.
We will leave you with this thought. If there is an experience and it’s design is to help one grow and evolve, see it with an open heart and open eyes, for that moment can help others as well as yourself.