The Importance of Communication & Self

I've never really spoken much about the past because it stays in the past but at times, there are valuable lessons to learn when certain experiences show up again. To give an example of this, some time ago now, I realised that I was experiencing something in one situation that appeared to be repeat of another experience I've had before. When I said to Amy.. "I've had this experience before, why am I struggling with it... AGAIN!?!?" and her response was that there were learnings, wisdom & education to be gained from this experience that needed to be looked at again. Another thing Amy explains is how there are millions and millions of energetic cords, they go into past lives, they go into the future, they go into the past, it is an entire network of information, experiences, lessons, life lessons, soul lessons and so forth. So an experience in the future, could trigger an experience in what is perceived to be the past but also what is also perceived to be in a past life and through that collective of experiences can we then move into a different level of let's say awareness.

So many years ago, I was married and then got divorced, we were together for around 11 years and during this period, not having the same level of life experiences and awareness that I do today, I was under the impression that that was the best that I could get. The wife, the home, the job, earning a good income and was known by many people and the "go to" person for many people within the agency that needed assisstance. During this experience, I was undergoing treatment for ADD/ADHD which began because when we were dating, the ex-wife said to me... "You won't amount to anything, you don't have a job, you don't have a degree" and as a result, I went back to school to try to study Electronic Engineering for a semester and as I was struggling with focus and studying, essentially re-writing books as a form of 'taking notes', I felt like I was failing and commenced treatment for ADD/ADHD to see if that would improve. That's the background of this.

Over the years, this particular relationship was along the lines of, always striving to be the perfect partner, always striving to meet a set of standards, always seeking for approval and it was very conditional when it came to love and this got very tiring & depressive. It got so tiring that there really wasn't really any form of communication and as I would try and even attempted on multiple times to express how I felt, because of not being understood, the act of expressing clearly to be understood by another felt so difficult that I stopped.

Communication plays a fundamental role in all facets of life. If there isn't any, it creates a plethora of problems, Pandora's box would be a walk in the park because of how the mind likes to fabricate realities that don't even exist.

The world became very internal for my own self that the entire relationship broke down because I shut down, whilst it is a two-way street when it comes to a relationship, do not get me wrong, the experience is all I'm talking about and how the lack of communication had such an impact, the inability to express, the feeling that expressing was too hard that the pathway was led to a complete collapse of the relationship. Yet, the things I learned, the things I experienced, the opportunities explored proves that whilst it was challenging that this relationship is infact and indeed a succesful relationship because of the growth and how the experiences I endured, both good & bad led to the development of the Heart Activation Music.

What I found in my own relationship experience that I'm referring too here, the communication between both partners was so inneffectual that I found myself paying to visit counsellors, psychologists and even had a team of psychiatrists that I was speaking with about the issues I was experiencing as a substitute for what was not really available in the relationship.

Today, I'm at the other end of the spectrum/extreme where in this relationship, communication didn't exist and with Amy, communication is in multiple forms and in a constant flow and to me this feels absolutely normal. It's quite an interesting experience. This is one of the many reasons why it is so vital to have communication in ANY relationship, most importantly the Incarnate/Spirit Guide as that comes with a bond that is unique to that Spirit Guide/Incarnate team and we're pushing for more teams to be purely open to communication. Amy calls herself the luckiest Spirit Guide because of how open I am to her communication. In fact, it is us, sitting together that is writing this post, communicating with one another on how to navigate this story to express how important communication is with everything.

Communication is so very important because I've witnessed and observed in others how the mind can be problematic for people. One of the things that I do A LOT of the time is to move myself into a state of introspection and many people mistake this as reflection. Introspection is the process of examining thoughts whilst Reflection is to be in a state of deep thought. However, you reflect in order to introspect.

Introspection: the examination or observation of one's own mental and emotional processes

Over the past few months, there was a trigger for myself that saw everything I knew, everything I was content with removed from under my feet. It was as if I was standing on a trap door and that trap door was opened and I look down and go... "Oh shit". This trigger, which is the perfect opportunity for incredible growth and inner restructuring of belief system has been constantly occurring over the years. This has seen incredible growth and opportunities to create lasting changes for good, not just for that experience. This exploration is covered in the topic "Fear of the Unknown" which was originally written in 2016 but was super relevant for this current experience as time that we see in years is merely seconds in the overall view of a single lifetime.

The mind itself, which is quite intriguing to me, in this very experience is best described as a young child throwing a temper tantrum because it is not getting what it wants. It is demanding attention and it thrives on making your reality a difficult nightmare. In a discussion last night with the friend at the pub, we were sharing notes on how we observed the mind spiral out of control and what it does in order to keep you in that spiral. Over the past few weeks myself, I've found that the mind is triggering emotions that is resulting in the fabrication of stories that aren't even remotely close to being true, it is trying to create a reality that doesn't even exist and as it is illiciting this response for more strength, the reality of the mind may very well create the struggles that we face on a day-to-day basis. The more I got angry at these specific thoughts, the more it appeared to have fed the mind and the stronger this experience got.

I was witnessing in this state of augmented reality that the perception of what was painted on the canvas was not a true reflection of what is being experience in the immediate reality. How many times have we all done this? How many times have we feared a response so much that we began to create these realities where we are predicting the responses of another only to find out that the response was not even remotely close to these realities that we fabricated. A great example is trying to follow up money from people who owe you, the emotional response that people have is profound, many times have I and others experienced fear because we begin predicting what the other party will do and say. We begin to predict what the other party is thinking and we essentially not just put words in their mouths but thoughts, emotions and even some of agenda because internally we are being consumed by the mind.

Recently, I have myself in anger and frustration and funny enough, it was because of what I percieved to be a lack of communication, it was also because I was longing to express with one that I literally created a conditional rule that if I was unable to express, I won't express at all. There were also behaviours that I observed within myself that were intriguing because it was, as described in the "Fear of the Unknown" article, that things needed to be seen for growth and development.

The growth is not focused on and it is like life is caught in a warren of hardships, crashes and struggle.

Without a healthy method of introspection and how practicing communication with the emotions, talking to the body and all facets of the totality of the human systems that without this introspection, how are you going to shift through mental & emotional experiences that are thrown your way and we continue to dive into these behavioural patterns to bring awareness and understanding of what is going on.

One of the other practices that I always encourage is that when someone creates a trigger, do not blame the person, remove the person from the experience, do not blame them, do not even consider them to be a part of this exploration and look deep into what the scenario is presenting. Why has surfaced, what is going on within, what is going on in the mind, what is going on emotionally, explore explore explore!!! Do not hate yourself, do not berate yourself, continue and try and try and try again if it gets too overwelming.

It is also seen as a beautiful gift as it means the soul itself has grown significantly to allow this form of growth to occur.

In one experience recently and shared on a Facebook post, is how I was gifted with the opportunity to spend three hours, going through belief systems, structures, emotions, anger, frustration and everything else to understand and comprehened the incredible f***ing gift that was presented. I found from these experiences, from this person that is constantly in my awareness that I was not blaming them for the experience that I instead began to love them more for the experience that they gifted, whther it was intentional or not.

It is this experience that we begin to move away from the need to be in the mind but to be express all of what we are, the divinity of what we are in a state of being complete and whole and grants us the gift of peace within and no longer the need for internal conflict which is the divine consciosuenss of what you are and the mind systems that are unable to accommodate and once we get through this, through the third and fourth-dimensional mindframes which is full of inconsistencies can we move into alignment is the fifth-dimensional grid as our belief system are a big trap and it really hinders the potential for humanity.

More of the mindframes is discussed in the article "The Blast Awakening"

With the years of exploration, ever since the day of being told that "Steven, you're a naturally emotional person" and the research that I've been doing over the years with the mind for self-improvement, I came to learn that the physical human body is made up of multiple different systems. Just like a computer, just like the internet, we use a series of systems that all communicate with one another, what appears to be effortlessly, in order for things to work.

It doesn’t mean you should analyze them but rather see them as you would see anything else.

The human body has multiple systems and this is visible because of the multiple types of processing that the body can do, there's the internal organs, there's movement, there's visual, there's speech, there's memory, there's thought, there's emotions and it is one incredible piece of art but I now ask you these questions.

• Have you ever attempted communication with yourself?
• Have you ever spoken to your body?
• Have you ever spoken to your consciousness?
• Have you ever communicated with your emotions?

The list can go on but this is the entire focus because this is the EXACT stuff I began to do in these states of instrospection. An emotion surfaces, I feel sad, rather than trying to numb this feeling of sadness with self-medication as I had done in the past, it was talk to the sadness, why is it there, what has happened to it, what does it want to show me and there are times that I've sat in this sadness for months on end trying to communicate with it to understand what it wants to teach me.

I shared an article titled "Working with Emotions" back in 2015 that talks about the explorations of emotions that we must communicate with them and not reject them. When I found myself in this state of anger and frustration, I needed to communicate with them because I was rejecting them and in my own words, because of the rejection of my own self by myself, that the mind went into a state of sabotage rather than nurturing myself, forgiving myself and working with the emotion.

It is best to never reject anything that is happening but rather love it, accept it, nurture it. This way if it is a wound, it can be healed, if it is merely a bad day or mood then it will pass faster.

It was after the weekend of going through the body and working with the emotions in the body that I was able to discover a wound, a wound that was, whenever there was something good obtained in life, it was removed just as fast, that anytime there was love, it was stripped bare and this happened in multiple realities, in multiple experiences and once I discovered that belief system, it was understood.

Seeing that an emotion is something that needs to be healed, it is like stepping on a thorn, you want to recognize the pain and go through these steps the moment you realize you have stepped on the thorn (the emotions are about to spiral) because that can save you a lot of unpleasantness and wasted energy.

This is why communication is so very important for every facet in life. It is not just with others, it is also with yourself, with your entire system and the more you practice communication, the more easier it is to move into peace and the greatest gift you can give yourself to create everlasting change within self.